Sunday, November 27, 2011

Beginning Your Online Dating Adventure

The first thing you need to do is think of the type of person you are looking for. Write down a complete wish list of your ideal mate. Include every detail you can think of and really be specific.

Next you want to write down a complete description of yourself, your personality traits, physical attributes and find a current and flattering photo of yourself. The key here is to be completely honest about your self and what you are looking for in a potential match. Keep in mind that these details can be edited in the future but we need to establish a good and honest starting point to create a profile.

Pick a Few Sites to Begin with and Create Profiles

You need to choose a few Web sites to start with and setup profiles on each one. It is up to you whether or not to use the same logins and passwords but it may be a good idea to mix things up so you don't leave a footprint of yourself across multiple sites.

Signing up at multiple sites is recommended because many have free trials that allow you to setup a profile, search around, and get matches sent to you to see how well you like the features of the site and also to gauge how many potential partners will be returned to you from your search criteria. You want to stick with the larger sites because the more people there are, generally the more likely it is you will find the perfect match.

Narrow Down the Field and Start Dating

After you try out a few different sites you will determine which ones to buy memberships to and over time you will start collecting a list of potential dating partners. Begin chatting online via email and social messaging to see if they make the first cut. You will know when it is time to take things to the next level and setup dates. You want to make sure that you do not volunteer too much personal information too quickly, and that you meet in public places for the first few times to make sure that you person you are seeing is who they say they are and a good person. Use common sense and keep safe when meeting strangers!Dating online was always considered as dating method for the young. But nowadays lots of older people are looking for love and relationships online. So dating over 40 is quite popular online. Don't get discouraged that most of the dating sites are targeted at the younger people. It's completely possible to find a match online, over 40. And if you are new to this, you should learn some crucial information before starting.

Here are some statistics to encourage you: There are 40 million people in the US that access online dating websites regularly. And only 3% of men, aged 18-24 do online dating, while that number is considerably higher for the men over 40 - 14%. So there is no reason to feel embarrassed about dating over 40, online. Especially, when ~25% of women over 40 have found their partner through online dating.

Also, you might think that you are at a disadvantage technologically. This could be true, but you should not forget about the advantages of dating over 40. First of all, you are much more experienced than younger people. You already know what kind of partner do you need, you can see people character clearly, and you are far more serious about dating, because you know that time isn't on you side, and failure isn't an option.

The process of registration on dating sites and posting your ad is usually the same on different dating sites. And it's very simple. But if you are not really sure, there are always instructions provided. So that is another thing why you should consider internet for dating over 40. However, you must be informed that some of dating sites require payment for their service (in order to look in the profiles, contacting people and etc.). So keep an eye on that, there could be some scams. That's why it's wise to perform a small research on Google about the dating site you want to join.

Finding people is easy. Usually you can perform a search and sort all people by age, location, interests and other factors. That's another plus for internet dating. Dating over 40 is already complicated, so why not to make it easier?

You also should hear some words of caution, because if you are not familiar with online dating over 40, then this info could be an eye-opener. First of all, do not believe all information you see in people dating profiles. Photos could be outdated, and information entered misleading. Don't be surprised by that. It's all done to get more attention. Also be careful and do not disclose your personal information (like zip code, address and phone number) to people you just met. They could be scammers. And what's not really pleasant - be prepared to the fact that people are looking for partners younger than themselves. That's applies really well for online dating.

That is most basic advice for online dating. If you feel that you need more advice on dating over 40, check out some professional dating guides, they can really help.When communicating with strangers, whether over the Internet or in-person, exercising caution is important. Disclosing personal information such as your last name, home address, e-mail address, phone number, location of employment, financial information, or any other piece of personally identifiable information can jeopardize your safety and increase the risk of fraud or inappropriate behavior. It's important to exclude personal information from your internet dating profile and messages you send members as it could be used to identify you. Your personal safety should be your primary priority in online dating.

If you feel harassed by members on dating websites that are requesting personal information you can usually block them from communicating with you or report them and their profiles for inappropriate behavior. Most dating websites have features like this to protect their members. When you do your part for safety you are contributing to a safe and positive experience for all members in the dating community you choose to be a part.

Dating websites generally don't run background checks on members, conduct criminal screenings against members, routinely screen members, or attempt to verify any information provided by or regarding members. This is typically to respect member privacy.

Some general safety tips to assist you in protecting your safety on dating websites are to be mindful that not everyone is honest. Yes, some people tell fibs in their dating profiles and in-person. Remember to be cautious and don't be shy to ask members for recent photos or exchange numerous messages to establish a rapport. If you are not interested in communicating with someone just say no thanks. If members don't respect your decision, block them from communicating with you. Trust your instincts.

Respect the choices others make. Some members may not be attracted or interested in communicating or meeting you. Remain Anonymous and communicate with members using website messaging system and your inbox. Safeguard your account access and information with the same level of security as you would your bank account. Take your time in getting to know someone before meeting them in-person. Love and relationships take time to seed, germinate, and grow into something beautiful.

Some safety tips and guidelines on sharing your information are not to use your first and last name as your username on dating websites. Your username should be something fictitious that does not personally identify you (Unsafe: JaneDoe, Safer: PrincessJane). Remember your username is visible to other members and they are likely to use it to label you or infer information about you. For example, using a username like "ILoveMarriage" may imply that you are married or marriage minded. It's important to protect your personal information such as last name, home address, e-mail address, phone number, location of employment from strangers. Always take careful consideration when deciding to share your personal information with dating website members. It's a risk to provide strangers with this information whether on-line or in-person. If you do decide to share an e-mail address for your dating purposes you may want to use an anonymous third-party e-mail such as Gmail, Hotmail, or Yahoo so that the e-mail address is less personal and you can close the account at anytime.

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