Sunday, November 27, 2011

Big Beautiful Women, or BBWs, are an amazingly popular category of women in the world of online dating.

For some guys, Big Beautiful Women are the be all and end all - they absolutely hate skinny women, and even women with average or athletic builds. A lot of guys are into BBWs as a kind of fetish - they will perhaps be married to "normal" women, but get their kicks out of dating and/or having sex with larger ladies. It is common for men - even single guys - to keep their sexual preference for big girls hidden, as they might be afraid of being ridiculed by their friends.

So, for men who lean towards BBWs, the Internet offers them the chance to hook up with plump babes with a great degree of confidentiality. They do not have to parade their large beauties in public, and can do all their wooing and seducing on the Internet. Another reason to hit the online dating sites to find fat women is that many of these girls are ashamed of their size, and for them the online dating scene is a perfect opportunity to meet guys that appreciate a fuller figure. Others may in fact be so huge, that it is an incredible effort for them just to leave their house.

The great news for men seeking bigger women is that there is a higher chance of success with these ladies than with many other categories (sporty, slim or beautiful women). Fat women absolutely adore the attention lovers of BBWs shower all over them. For these gals, the Internet is the greatest thing to come into their lives since home delivered pizza!

If you want to use mainstream dating websites, then there are plenty of big chicks to choose from here. Finding them is not hard: simply enter your preferences when browsing through the member profiles and up they will come, literally in their thousands. Some fat women prefer their male partners to also be large (the "Mike and Molly" scenario), so don't approach them if they state this on their profile and you are not a big man. Luckily, others are delighted that non-fat men are interested, and may even have their own fetish for skinny dudes.

If you want to specialize - here is a random list of just five dating sites specializing in BBWs and large people in general:

And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Rather than recommending any of these, the best online dating advice for men seeking big and beautiful girls is to check them all out and see which one fits them the best. Also, have a look in your own region by putting the name of your town, city or state in the search engine when you set off on your large-lady Internet dating adventures.

Some handy abbreviations (apart from BBW) you might like to know for trying out dating websites for big folks are BHM (Big Handsome Man) and FA (Fat Admirer).There is no doubt that online dating is one of the easiest and most convenient ways to find a partner. But just like regular dating, dating people online can be tricky because the person you are dealing with is someone you probably haven't met yet, and you are not sure if he is being truthful about his identity and feelings.

This obstacle can be solved by getting to know the person well before meeting him personally. The internet has made it very easy for people to engage in online dating, thus you can chat, exchange e-mails or have phone conversations through Skype and other messengers that allow voice calls. Hearing someone's voice is very important in getting to know a person. It will help you determine if this person has good intentions or not. After endless hours of chatting and email, you should strengthen the bond by talking to each other over the phone. Remember that you are considering this person for a personal relationship.

After talking to each other on the phone, the next online dating step is to meet this individual personally. Of course you have to put a face on the words and the voice that you are communicating with constantly over free online dating sites. Meeting somebody personally can help you in verifying his intentions by looking at his body language, among other factors.

Before meeting this individual personally, make sure that you have gathered enough basic information, not just for personal safety, but also for making conversation. This is a crucial step in making a personal relationship with someone you met through free online dating sites. But first, make sure that you are going to meet this person in a safe environment. The importance of this is pretty obvious and cannot be stressed enough. Exercise caution and meet this person during the day and in a public place. Meeting up for lunch in a family restaurant or having coffee in a caf are great ideas when it comes to setting up your first meeting. This will ensure your safety in case this person turns out to be some sort of a creep.

Since you met him through online dating, you cannot be sure yet if this is really a good person. Make sure that this person gives you the lowdown on the basic facts of his life, such as profession and civil status. Fortunately, most people from these sites are decent individuals who will be honest with stuff like that. They will tell you if they are already married, divorced or have kids. Most of them are honest about what they do for a living. Watch out for those who greatly exaggerate personal details or those who seem shady and try to hide important information such as their job and location.

Also, you should be aware that some individuals in online dating will stretch the truth a bit just to make sure that you will like them. They can say that they like the things you are interested in, when the truth is, they don't really give a damn about your favorite balladeer. Use your instincts when it comes to judging people from online dating.There are a lot of resources around that discuss internet safety, however this article is aimed at the more "mature" internet user who may not have much experience with computers or the internet. I'll be writing from my perspective as Community Manager of an online dating and networking site designed for baby boomers and seniors, as well as an avid user of social media and former dating site user (yes that's right - I met my partner online!)

1. Join a reputable online dating site. In the past few years there has been an explosion in the number of online dating and social networking sites and unfortunately some operators of these sites are not particularly scrupulous. Do an internet search on the site name to see if you can find any additional information about them - or any user stories which may give you the confidence to join or sound the alarm bells!

2. Don't reveal personal details. Keep your real name, phone number and email address to yourself. Taking communications away from the dating site can put you in a vulnerable position - reputable dating sites can monitor suspicious member behaviour and alert you to this - if you are communicating via email away from the site this can be more difficult

3. Choose your payment method. Reputable dating sites use an encrypted payment processing service - this information should appear on the payment pages.If you are hesitant to offer your credit card details check to see if a prepaid Visa or Mastercard gift card may be used as these are prepaid and not drawn from your bank account. Most postal outlets offer these gift cards for sale.

4. Scrutinise member profiles and received messages. Despite the checks and balances that are in place, non-genuine members may still find their way on to some sites. There are some telltale signs to look out for if a member is not genuine, such as:

 Very verbose profile descriptions or messages which are excessively flattering and use common words/phrases such as "Dear", "God-fearing", "distance is no barrier"
 Messages that declare strong feelings for you early on in you communications
 Poor spelling/grammar especially for supposed native English speakers
 Incorrect capitalization, no spaces when commas are used (eg "im patient,kind,caring,considerate")
 The photo doesn't match the description, or the member looks like a professional model (not to say there aren't good looking members out there, this is just another warning sign)
 Location does not match the profile description - they may be listed in one country but "working" in another (often for an aid agency or similar)
 Sob stories - "my parents died in a plane crash when I was young" - this is a method of garnering your sympathies and may lead to requests for financial assistance
 Messages are usually quite lengthy and almost always include an email address to continue communications away from the site - as outlined above, this is to be avoided

5. Keep financial details private. Never, ever give credit card or bank details to another member. Never agree to cash a cheque or money transfer - this will more than likely result in you being out of pocket.

6. Safety in numbers. If you agree to meet, it should only be after you have exchanged several messages and have begun to get a "feel" for the other person.

 Meet in a busy place; never meet at your house the first time. Even if you feel like you really know the person well, it is imperative that you treat your first meeting with caution. If things don't work out the way you expected you can leave a public place with more ease than a private home.
 Ensure that friends and family know where you are going, with whom (your new friend's username, if not his/her real name) and what time you should be expected home.
 Ensure you have your mobile phone with you so you can communicate with others if required

7. Trust your instincts. If something seems too good to be true, then it often isn't. Connecting with someone you have met online can be a wonderful and exciting time, especially if it has been a while since you have felt close to someone romantically. As difficult as it may seem, try to take the emotion out of it and read received messages with a critical eye: analyse their tone, consistency, use of language. Does everything add up?

A final word. There are many wonderful people just like you looking for someone special joining online dating sites, so don't be afraid to join in - you never know what opportunities may arise! Just keep these tips handy, your eyes open and your wallet closed.Internet dating for women has come a long way since its fledgling beginnings in the 1990's.

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